Tuesday, August 16, 2005

Existential loneliness

What is loneliness? Being lonely is a fate, because we are born alone and we will die alone. There is nothing that you can do about it. Yet, most of the time we try to convince ourselves that we are not alone.

During childhood we cling ourselves to our family, always afraid of being left alone, fear of being abandoned in this unknown world. There is nothing wrong in it, since it springs from innocence. When we are parting from our family, we seek security in our peer-groups. Then we seek for a romantic companion, believing that it will last forever. All because of our fear of being left alone, that we seek for other's company all the time.

The same thing happens in our society. At first we feel safe in our family. Then we seek for security in our neighborhood. Then we try to find something common between us, so we seek security in so-much-invented states, nations, races, etc. All because of our fear of being alone.

So, why do we spend so much energy for finding companionship if we know that they are all illusion? That all the companionship is only temporary, and will ceased soon or later.

The only secure place is within ourselves. We have in each of us a safe haven that can not be touched by others. A safe yet a lonesome one.
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